It is years ago that the facts of life took me into a direction, away from the teacher I loved so much, away from the school and all my friends that were in there. Why? Because the Inner Planes had other plans for me. “Your viewpoints differ because of a reason, go and do what is necessary.”
That was the beginning of a time of testing. The testing whether I was capable of leading an independent school, the test of keeping the integrity of the Lineage in spite of severe pressure from the outside. During that time of testing where my endurance was tested to the limits I discovered some very important things.
How easy would it have been to throw out all my frustration on the internet in an attempt to damage the ‘others’ who were using me as a scapegoat to cover up their own failures, they banished me and excluded me because of peer pressure.
During that time the Inner Planes were always there, confirming, criticizing, giving direction. During the time of the Testing, they continuously told me: “Don’t make the mistake to ‘hate the others’. Thoughts have energy and those energies create all kind of neurological and hormonal reactions in YOUR body. If you think ‘my partner, my parent, my teacher has become my enemy’, you poison yourself: parts of you start to crumble and fall apart, because they are connected to the love for those persons, your shared history and all the good things you learned from them. If you start to think about someone as your ‘enemy’, you cut yourself loose from all the treasures you developed because of that relationship.”
The Inner Planes also taught me not to listen to victims of such situations, because those who consider themselves victims turn into a choir of frogs, ribbiting outside in a pool, waiting for a prince to kiss and rescue them. “Listen to winners, because they have the skills to cope with those situations!”
Through these experiences I learned that one cannot get away with hating people and loving yourself at the same time. Your own thinking will poison both your energy system and your body with hatred, anger, fear, self-guilt and self-destruction that will affect your life because of unconscious processes. To ‘agree to disagree’ generates much better results in the long run.
Of course it hurts when your direction in life causes you to leave the nest, of course it hurts when different views or ethical standards drive you away from your comfort zone. But all that pain is not worth to poison yourself or to damage the larger community to whom you belong, by splitting it in two and force people to take sides.
When I look at the world of today, with pain in my heart I see how different communities of our society are drifting part, polarizing, backstabbing. As society we run the risk of poisoning ourselves by this destructive ‘enemy thinking’. Nowadays I think a lot about this lesson… to leave the communication lines open, to honestly discuss different versions of one truth, and to agree to disagree!
Ina Custers van Bergen
For Enchanting Self-development